by Hermine Hilton
’America’s Memory Motivator’
With the Holidays here and the New Year ahead, it’s a wonderful time for making memories. And one of the very best things in life we can do for ourselves, to keep us happy and healthy, is to continuously make new and POSITIVE memories. And savor them. I stress the word ‘positive ’ because it’s the positive scenes in our minds that can flush out the negative ones.
Although my subject as a speaker is how to remember and how to work your memory, there are often people who will ask me how to work their ‘forget-ory’, and empty their minds of things they’d rather not remember.
Is there a way? Absolutely! But it takes a little practice.
There are times in all of our lives when we lose sight of Santa Claus, times we’d prefer to forget: Events that went awry; people who have caused us unhappiness; hurts suffered, physical or emotional, which befell us; experiences that embarrassed us. Many of those things that creep into our minds from time to time are better off forgotten.
And they can be.
So my gift to you this holiday season will be to show you how to use the magic of your memory to work your ‘forget-ory’.
Whenever a thought or scene comes to your mind that would be better off forgotten, instead of dwelling on it, as we often do, be ready with a different scene that is happily remembered, and replace it. It’s like tossing out a bad photo from a scrapbook and pasting in a good one.
For starters, try to think back to 2 of your happiest memories, one from Xmas and one from New Years. Keeping these memories handy can relieve stress and angst and can work for you like magic.
As an example, one of the best Xmas mornings I ever had was during a time my parents were struggling financially, yet still managed to get Santa to deliver what I had been praying for… a bicycle under the tree. Now, when Xmas comes around each year, I don’t let my mind fill up with sadness remembering that my mom, who I dearly loved, exhibited terrible timing by leaving this world one Xmas Eve. Instead, I conjure up that old memory, and think once again how very happy and excited I felt discovering, thanks to my mom, that beautiful sky blue English Racer on a wonderful Xmas morn.
And should my New Year’s Eve ever feel a little lonely, I’ll fill my mind with the memory of a New Year’s Eve kiss I once got from a stranger, that made me feel like (you may be too young to remember) Brenda Starr and The Mystery Man. Although it may or may not have turned into ‘An Affair To Remember’, (I’m admitting nothing), it serves as a terrific replacement memory and was definitely the best New Year’s Eve kiss I ever received.
And you can do this too.
You can even create magic memories for others by doing the unexpected: Leaving a gift at the door of a neighbor with a card from Santa Claus…. Calling a friend who you’ve neglected for too long, just to say hello….Buying a favorite book and presenting it, as a kindly gesture, to a stranger in the book store. So many ways to make memories. And from my heart, I wish you all good ones. I wish you the best of the season, all the sharing and caring, giving and receiving, and the most exciting New Year, one in which you can capture your desires and reach all your goals.
But if you should get to feeling a little blue, as many are prone to do over the holidays —why not make a New Year’s resolution — to get out those beautiful, wonderful, magical memories — set them right into your mental camera — And REJOICE!
All Good Memories
HERMINE HILTON, one of America’s most popular speakers, is the author of several books on memory, including “The Executive Memory Guide” (Simon&Schuster),“50 Ways To A Better Memory”, and her latest book titled“Fuhhgeddaboutit!” (How To Stop Worrying About Your Memory).You may have heard her on Radio or seen her on Television with David Letterman;Charlie Rose; Matt Lauer; Bryant Gumbel, or a host of others. She is the creator of Sonik Memory and the Memory Motivator for the Fortune 500 Companies from Nordstrom to NASA, and is known internationally from the Netherlands to Nigeria, Turkey to Thailand, Italy to Israel, and almost all other points on the planet. www.hiltonmemory.com